When we married, I kept my name. This was not due to some notion of modern womanhood or feminist whatnot. I'd had the same name for 33 years, that name was who I was. The name thing was non issue to THO. Had children occurred, I would have changed the name. Well. Children did not occur.
It is a little embarrassing to admit that a big reason I didn't change my name is that it was inconvenient. You might say I kept my name out of laziness. All this wouldn't matter now, if it were not that I seemed to have changed.
My identity is now very much THO's wife. So. Should I change my name 21 years after the wedding?
There's something else. The Handsome One's mother's name was Lynn too. I never met my mother-in-law, she passed away before I met her son. It felt wrong that our names be the same- like it was somehow disrespectful, audacious. Now, I wonder if it would be in honor of her son, that fine man who is my husband, that I share her name.